Information Children don’t need to know about their Parents
You may want to be honest with your children, but that doesn’t mean that they should know everything. The following is some information you may want to keep to yourself.
Sexual relations
You should not share any information about your sex life with your children. This is not appropriate, and many will not even tell adult children about it. First, many kids truly do not want to hear about such a subject. You certainly do not want your children to pass information off to anyone. You definitely do not want them to copy your behavior at too young an age.
Marital problems
Children should not know that their parents are having marital problems (unless you have no choice such as a divorce). It can only worry the children, and they may be confused about what is going on. You certainly do not want to share that a parent has done something horrible such as cheated on their spouse. Many children put their parents on pedestals, and it can be devastating to have them be knocked off of it in so dramatic a fashion. If a parent does not like something about the other parent they should not share that information with the child.
Drug use
Children should not know about the drug use of their parents. Many children will have to make their own decisions on whether to use drugs. You will seem hypocritical if you are telling your children not to do drugs at the same time that you are doing it. Do not let them find paraphernalia related to this.
Low self-esteem/body issues
Just because someone is a parent doesn’t mean that they cannot have their own self esteem or body image problems. Children should not know that Mommy thinks she is fat. If they see that their mother or father do not view themselves as they should then they may start copying this behavior. If they see that their mother thinks she looks horrible even though she looks fine, then they might start seeing themselves as ugly as well. You should never complain about yourself to your children.
Ways you think the child is lacking
If you do not think your child is pretty or smart or athletic, then do not tell them this. They should not see their faults through your eyes. Focus on their strengths.
There is a lot that you should share with your children, but a lot that you shouldn’t. Consider very careful everything you say to your kids, because once the information is out there, it can’t come back.
Updated On: 09/17/2010 Published On: 09/17/2010 Article ViewerClose
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