Mental Health Concerns in Children of Divorced Parents

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A couple may believe that a divorce is solely between them and their spouse, however children are affected as greatly and in some cases more by such an event. Some children experience mental health issues that are precipitated or exacerbated by the split, thus it is important for parents to be aware of potential issues so that they may catch problems early and stage quick intervention. There are many mental health issues that may arise, among them the following common ones.
Depression
Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses experienced by children, and suffering a parents’ divorce may make this more likely in some children. Children may feel very sad that their parents have split. This can be further exacerbated by their lack of control. They will typically see one or both parents far less than in the past. They may need to move, change schools or face financial difficulties. They may have been shielded from marital problems, thus the divorce may come as a complete shock. It may feel like their entire world has turned upside down. Children also often feel guilt, even though they typically have little to no culpability in their parents’ divorce.
With depression, this sadness and guilt intensifies to something stronger than normal for this age. The children may be accustomed to getting support from their parents, however because the situation is about their parents, they may not feel like they can talk to them.
Parents should understand the symptoms and signs of depression. It includes prolonged feelings of sadness, unusual weight changes, frequent crying, withdrawal, lack of interest in activities, forgetfulness, sullen behavior, mood changes and more. It can be extremely serious because of the potential for the tragedy of suicide. Many parents feel that it could never get this far with their child, and unfortunately many have been mistaken. If they suspect that their child is experiencing such a condition, they should have them evaluated by a professional such as a licensed psychologist.
Anxiety disorders
Children rely on their parents to help make them feel safe. Suddenly this safe family disappears from under their feet. Many children find themselves feeling anxious in the face of such dishevel. They may feel general anxiety or they may experience panic attacks. These can be extremely difficult for children, but there are treatments if it is recognized.
Self esteem issues
Many children of divorced parents find that their self-esteem has suffered greatly. The aforementioned feelings of guilt may reflect on how they view themselves. Low self esteem is also tied in to a number of other disorders. For instance, some girls (and even boys) with low self-esteem sometimes experience eating disorders. It is important to try to raise your child’s self worth if it is lacking.
Divorced parents must be especially diligent about safeguarding their child’s mental state. They should keep discourse between themselves and their former spouse away from the children so as to avoid their children being any more in the middle than they already are. They should make sure that their child has adequate support and not ignore potential warning signs. These steps can help protect your child from the difficulties their situation can entail.