Ego the Stumbling Block to Real Intimacy in a Relationship
Can one truly become intimate with another person if they are in a love relationship with themselves? That is the problem with ego, the stumbling block to real intimacy in a relationship.
Someone with a big ego is often very much immersed in themselves. They may think about their own aspects all the time, arrogant and egotistical in all that they do. They may not notice what is going on with their mate, and their mate might feel bad about this. They may not appreciate all that their mate has to offer if they are only thinking about themselves. They may feel less close to the other person if they are missing all of the wonderful things about them. Likewise their mate might have trouble feeling close to them if they do not feel like the other person notices them.
Someone with an overactive ego often thinks that he or she is better than others. It can be difficult to have true intimacy in a relationship with others if you believe that you are superior. Your mate might recognize this, and they may be saddened, hurt or angry to feel looked down upon. They may have trouble feeling intimate towards you because of your feelings of supremacy.
Someone with a big ego might have trouble focusing on the relationship itself, which can make it difficult to have true intimacy. They may always think that any problems are about the other person since they have such a high view of themselves. They may not take responsibility for problems that occur.
It may be difficult for the other person to relate to someone with an overactive ego. They may feel like they do not see the real world, but instead what they want to see. Someone with an ego problem may have difficulty with a lot of people, which may make their mate feel embarrassed or upset and further dampen the intimacy between the two of them. They may try to talk to the mate with the ego problem but it may be to no avail.
Of course when two people with ego issues come together, then the problems may only be heightened as each are so self-involved. You may have little true intimacy between two such people.
Ego can be a true stumbling block to intimacy. If you feel that intimacy is missing from your relationship, then you may want to evaluate whether you have an issue with ego and see what you can do to address it.
Updated On: 09/23/2010 Published On: 09/23/2010 Article ViewerClose
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