How to help your Spouse to Build up their self Esteem

You see all of the good qualities about your spouse, so why don’t they? It can be difficult to have a spouse who suffers from low self-esteem, and you want to do all you can to help them build up this important attribute. Try the following techniques.
Be generous – and genuine – with your comments
Even if you know how you feel about your spouse, it is important to vocalize these thoughts. It is amazing how much a simple comment might mean to your spouse. If you tell your wife that you think she is beautiful then she might start to think so too. It is especially important to notice if he or she does something special and remark upon it. Of course, you do not want to give her so many compliments that she does not think that you are genuine. Say what you really mean.
Sometimes you can even make a compliment with your eyes or gestures. If your wife comes out in a new red hot dress then give her a nice stare and a whistle. You want him or her to feel truly delighted by your attention.
Encourage him or her to recognize what is good about themselves
Help your spouse to see all of the good parts of him or her. You can give them your own list. You can also ask them vocalize say the things that are good. They may feel that the exercise is silly, but try to get them to humor you. You can even have them write it out. They may list attributes such as intelligence, kindness, etc.
Encourage them to try something that they can excel at
Your spouse may feel better if he or she can find something to conquer. If they are a talented artist, then you can encourage them to draw, for instance.
Sometimes building up a spouse’s self-esteem is not as much about what you do but about what you don’t do. You may joke about some of your spouse’s attributes. They may seem funny to you but sometimes they can be very hurtful to them. Think about anything you might say or do that they might find hurtful.
You want to help your spouse build up their self-esteem if it is low. You can also get them a book on this subject if you think that they would read it. Otherwise try the above tips.