: How to Support a Spouse after the Loss of their Parent

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There are few events as devastating as the loss of a parent. If your spouse has suffered such a loss, then you will want to do as much as you can to help him or her get through this time. Everyone deals with grief in different ways, so you will need to find out the exact needs of your spouse.
Be there to listen
You may not know quite what to say to your spouse when he or she has lost their parent, and sometimes the best thing you can do is not to talk but to listen. They may need to get their feelings out. They may want to tell you about all of the sadness in them or about all of the good times that they remember. No matter what they need to say, let them say it to you. Be there just to listen without judgment. Let them know that they can talk to you for as long as they need to get the pain out.
Physically support them
Your spouse may need a lot of hugs right now. Let him or her literally cry on your shoulder. If they want you to hold them, then do so. They are likely to be feeling very vulnerable. They may just want someone to provide that physical comfort that their parent once provided.
Give them space if they so desire
Sometimes the best thing you can do to support a spouse who has lost a parent is to give them the space they need. If they do not want to talk then do not force them to. Do not be hurt by their actions. They may just need some time alone. Also, if they are mean to you, give them a little extra consideration. Remember that their actions may be created by grief and you do not want to fight with them over little things at this time.
Help them see the good in their lives
They may need a little bit of cheering up. You may want to get them to laugh at a point. You can talk about your kids, job or whatever else you like. You can make them their favorite foods to eat. You can watch a movie with them that you know that they love. Buy them something nice. Bring flowers for them. Try to do something thoughtful.
The loss of a parent is tragic, and your spouse will need you more than ever to get through this time. Be strong and be what he or she needs.