: How to Deal with a Passive Aggressive Boyfriend

It can be difficult to have a relationship with a passive aggressive boyfriend. You may find that your communication is hampered, stolen by your boyfriend’s negative behavior, which may or may not be purposeful. The following tips can help you deal with such a situation.
If you feel like you boyfriend is displaying passive aggressive behavior, no matter whether it is inadvertent or not, you may want to talk to him about it. When you talk to him, describe specific instances so that he can understand where you are coming from. When you talk to him try not to just be accusatory so that he becomes defensive. You want to have a positive discussion, not get into a fight. Let him say his part.
He may deny the behavior, especially if he does not realize that he is doing it. You do not have to convince him that he is passive aggressive. You can more talk about how certain behaviors are affecting you. Try to get him to empathize and see how he would feel if you were behaving in that manner.
You also want to get his feelings on everything. You can ask if he is upset at you or angry about anything that he has not wanted to blatantly bring up. Solving those may solve the behavior issue.
You can work with your boyfriend to help find ways that you can communicate better with each other. He may have wanted to talk to you about things but had been worried about how you would react. The passive aggressive behavior may have been his way of getting everything out when he did not know how. You can try to find a resolution that you both can live with. Hopefully he will realize that he has been behaving in such a manner and make steps to remedy it.
In addition to having a specific talk about everything, you can also speak up at the moment when he displays passive aggressive behavior. If he does something that hurts you in a backhanded manner, for instance, then you can call him out on it and ask about his motivations.
Hopefully you will be able to successfully deal with your passive aggressive boyfriend to help him create healthier ways of communication. If nothing you do changes this destructive behavior and you are truly unhappy in the relationship, then you may need to consider whether the relationship is right for you.