: Why it is Unhealthy to Seek Revenge against a Cheating Spouse
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You imagine every little thing you can do to him in excruciating detail. Although seeking revenge against a cheating spouse is oh-so-tempting, it is not a healthy activity and can cause more distress for you than good. There are different reasons why this is true.
You are doing something bad to someone else
Many people are not used to doing things that are “bad.” They may typically not hurt people, and yet that is what revenge is all about. It is not healthy for someone who usually tries to do good to instead do bad. Even if you hate him with all of your heart, you may still end up feeling bad for what you have done. It may come back and bother you that you allowed yourself to go down such a path.
It makes you still focus on your spouse instead of moving in a healthy direction
There are many healthy options to take after you catch a spouse cheating. Of course, one of the best courses of action is to decide that you deserve better than this and to separate from your spouse. You can then look to the future and focus on yourself. When you are looking for revenge, all of your energy is still focused on your spouse, and in a bad way.
You may become obsessed
It can be very hard to witness such a serious betrayal. You probably loved your spouse and you still may. Some may become obsessed with him or her and the situation. They may spend all of their focus on getting their revenge and hurting him or her as much as they hurt you. You may feel like it will somehow take away the pain that you are feeling. Only at the end of it all, you still will be hurt. If instead you started to move on, then you may be feeling better.
It can damage your self esteem even more
When your spouse cheats on you, your self esteem may take an unhealthy beating. Plotting revenge may actually make this worse because you may then see what he’s driven you to do. You may feel bad that you are having trouble letting it go.
You may long for revenge more than anything when you find out that your spouse has cheated on you. Although tempting, you should try to resist the lure of this unhealthy behavior. Instead focus on the positives of your life and plan your next steps with logic and reason.
Updated On: 09/20/2010 Published On: 09/20/2010 Article ViewerClose
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