Dating Dilemmas Advice
You worry about her looking at other guys. You worry about other guys looking at her. Jealousy is a powerful force, with the ability to destroy otherwise healthy relationships. This is often a spiral and can happen in different ways.
The other person may feel that you do not trust them
When someone is jealous it is often based on the fear that the other person is going to cheat or leave them. This is saying something very strong about the other person. If you are always showing jealousy, then your significant other may feel like you do not trust them. This can be very hurtful. They may have given you no reason to believe they are untrustworthy and they may actually decide to leave the relationship for someone who believes in them.
Your significant other may get frustrated by the jealousy
It can be very frustrating when you constantly hear your spouse accusing you of things you have not done. Jealousy may cause you to try to impose restrictions on your significant other. For instance, a jealous husband may not want his wife to go out in a group of friends in which anyone else is a single guy. If you start to become so jealous that you impose ridiculous limitations or ultimatums, then your significant other may decide that they want to make their own decisions.
Jealousy can also affect the person’s other relationships and they may leave yours rather than give those up. For instance, if you tell her that she cannot see her male best friend that she has known since she was five, then she might get frustrated and feel that she shouldn’t have to give that up. She may then end the relationship.
Your significant other may think that you are not thinking rationally and start to feel distanced from you
Jealousy is a strong emotion, but it often doesn’t come from actual observable data. If your significant other has done nothing to justify these feelings then he or she may become concerned about you feeling them. He or she may not think that you are acting rationally and you may start to have difficulty with your own relationship.
They may feel smothered by the jealousy
A lot of men and women don’t like to feel smothered. Yet jealousy is an emotion that can bring this out.
It can be difficult to stop jealousy, but you should be aware of the consequences that can come. Even if you feel it, try as best you can not to let it overtake you so that you can avoid the problems above. With time, hopefully you will be able to better manage these feelings.
Updated On: 09/20/2010 Published On: 09/20/2010 Article ViewerClose
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