: How to Deal with a co Worker who wants more than Friendship
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It is difficult when a co-worker wants more than friendship. There are different ways to deal with this situation, and it will depend on your personality as well as the persistence of your would-be suitor. Consider the following strategies.
Ignore it
Sometimes the best thing to do in this case is to ignore it. This may be appropriate if they do not do anything overt and you do not want to deal with it. You may feel uncomfortable and not want to mention it to them. A lot of people will detect your lack of interest and move on to someone else.
You may also want to avoid them as much as possible. This can be difficult if they are your co-worker, but you may be able to work with someone else. Sit with someone else in the cafeteria. If they try to strike up a conversation, then tell them that you have to get back to work. Try to avoid them in the hall.
Give hints without outright rejection
If you want to let the person know that you are not interested but do not want to outright reject them, then you can instead give hints. If they ask you out, you can always make excuses. Another thing that you can do is to talk about a boyfriend. Even if you do not have one you can talk about someone else that you like or hint at a significant other. You can also talk generally about how you do not want to be in a relationship without mentioning them, i.e. “Oh, I just love the freedom of being single.” Make sure to resist all of their advances. Do not let them do something like pay for you.
Talk to them
Sometimes the only thing that will work is to talk to them. You can be honest about why you do not want to be with them if you so choose. If you want to lessen the blow, you can also just simply explain that you do not date your co-workers. A lot of people feel this way, so it should not seem out of place.
Take further measures
If the person continues to bother you, then you may have to turn to more drastic measures. If it gets to the point of harassment then you can bring it up with your superiors. Obviously if it is intolerable, you could also consider trying to move to a different department.
It is challenging to deal with a co-worker who wants more than friendship. Consider the above strategies for handling this.
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