: What to do if a Dream Partner Isn’t Perfect

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As a little girl, did you dream of Price Charming coming to sweep you off your feet? Then you meet the real life version, and life is a dream. Only as time passes, you realize that your dream partner is not quite perfect. What you should do will depend on you and your partner.
First, it is important to remember that no one is perfect. Imperfections make us human. When you meet someone with the eyes of true love, then they may appear perfect. However, if this is what you will be expecting from a mate, then you will be disappointed every time. You need to truly evaluate your own desires and needs. Think about what is not perfect about your mate and how important these traits are. Think about yourself – chances are that you are not perfect as well. Basically you need to evaluate whether the problem is your mate’s or whether it is truly yours. If you are searching for something that does not exist, then do not throw out a wonderful relationship.
In some cases you may be able to change some things about your partner, but you will want to be very careful in this. Your partner is who he or she is, and they may not want to change or may not even be able to do so. In some cases, the change would be for the good of everyone such as if he or she has a bad habit like smoking, drinking excessively or doing drugs. You can talk to him or her about these things that bother you, and they may be able to change them. Sometimes the thing that bothers you may be trivial and he or she may be willing to change it. You do not want to turn your mate into something he or she is not because then neither of you will be happy.
Of course you will also need to evaluate whether your dream partner truly is your dream partner. If something bothers you so much that you doubt your feelings, then perhaps it is time to move on from the relationship. You may never find someone who is perfect, but hopefully there is someone who is perfect for you. You may want to more strongly consider such a move when the imperfections are serious such as if he or she has violent tendencies.
A perfect partner may only exist in your imagination, but a dream partner can be real. The above tips may help you deal with doubts with your relationship.