: What to look for in a first Date
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The experience of your first date may lead you to many more dates or it may be your first and final date in one. There are certain things that you might want to look for in a first date. Consider the following.
Someone who makes the effort
Most people want their first dates to go smoothly and they might make the extra effort to make this happen. For instance, it is important to be punctual on a first date. The other person should not have to sit around waiting for you. If your date saunters in an hour after it was supposed to begin without a good excuse, then you will understandably be frustrated. If instead your date shows up right on time, obviously wanting to be considerate, then this is a positive sign.
You also want to look for someone who shows that they care about putting themselves together. Obviously different people have different appearances, and many things can’t be changed, however if the person shows up in a stained, wrinkly and not-so-clean outfit that they just threw together, then that is less than ideal. You want to look for someone who at least made the effort to make themselves look nice for you.
Someone who listens
You want someone who will listen to what you have to say. Most of us have been on dates in which the other person talked… and talked… and talked. It can be frustrating to say the least and might be an indication of what you will expect in the future from them. It should be a give and take with each of you getting your chance to talk.
Also consider what they say. If they always talk about their ex, then they might not be ready to move on. If you find that they have intelligent, funny and appropriate banter, then it might show more promise.
They should be respectful
You want someone who will only move as fast as you want to move. Many people want a gentleman or a lady, especially on the first date.
They should be kind
If someone isn’t nice to you on the first date, then you might really be in for it later. You can often tell the person who is nicer simply by how they talk to others and treat you.
Look for similarities
Despite the stereotype that opposites attract, oftentimes we are more attracted to people like ourselves, with the same interests, viewpoints and hobbies. Look for these commonalities because they might be something on which the relationship can grow.
The above factors highlight some of the things you might see on a first date. Of course, you want to look at everything as a whole and not dismiss someone because of one issue (i.e. sometimes people really do have good excuses for being late). Consider everything when deciding whether it is worth a second date.
Updated On: 09/06/2010 Published On: 09/06/2010 Article ViewerClose
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